Fort Lauderdale Dad's Viral Video Tells Parents Not to Publicly Shame Their Kids
While some parents have used social media to create humiliating punishments for their children, one Fort Lauderdale father is using the platform to show that there’s another way to get through to kids.
Wayman Gresham, an educator and father of four, uploaded a video to Facebook that initially shows him getting ready to shave his son’s head to teach him a lesson. But Gresham then takes a different approach: He hugs his son.
"There's no way in the world I would ever embarrass my son like that," Gresham says in the video posted on Facebook on May 27. "Good parenting is showing them the way by example.”
The video has since gone viral, receiving coverage from major news outlets, including BuzzFeed, The Huffington Post and Yahoo. As of June 3, the clip has received more than 19.8 million views and 500,000 shares.
Dr. Barbara Greenberg, an adolescent and family psychologist, told TODAY Parents there’s nothing to be gained from public shaming.
"Public humiliation and shame may be an even worse form of discipline than hitting a child," Greenberg told the outlet. "Humiliation and shame teach nothing but fear, and destroy parent-child relationships. Humiliation also leads to lying because who wants to be shamed yet again?"
Gresham, who has since clarified that he isn’t against discipline, hopes his video will encourage parents to think twice.
"I hope that it's something that will stick and people will remember that hey, you know, there's another way of reaching this child,” he told ABC News.